Comments on: Tempest, Part 2 http://mom-et-al.com/2009/08/tempest-part-2/#utm_source=feed&utm_medium=feed&utm_campaign=feed Tue, 16 Mar 2010 20:28:15 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Kate http://mom-et-al.com/2009/08/tempest-part-2/comment-page-1/#comment-288 Kate Sun, 13 Sep 2009 02:40:09 +0000 http://mom-et-al.com/?p=101#comment-288 Having a strong willed girl of my own - I have lived through AND SURVIVED your pain. What did it take??? When she had just turned 6...YES I said 6! We went from age 2 thru age SIX before I was able to quell the beast! By the time she turned 6...I was lost...at my wits end...angry...depressed. SO...as I started, when she had just turned 6, I LOST IT. Spending more time screaming and crying than laughing and loving...I couldn't take it anymore. I decided it was time to seek help. I knew what I was SUPPOSED to be doing..."take a deep breath"..."walk away"..."don't engage"...but I just couldn't DO IT. I finally took my issue to my GYN. I went in for an annual...and when it was over she asked me if there was anything I wanted to talk to her about. I started: "As a matter of fact..." and went on to ask: "Have you even felt like you were right there ON THE EDGE...and it wasn't going to take much to PUSH YOU RIGHT OVER THAT EDGE?!" Being a woman and mother herself...she knew exactly what I was talking about. My fear was hormones...but she went through "a day in the life" with me...and decided to try me on a very low-dose anti-depressent/anti-anxiety med. While I was in line @ the pharmacy...I just happened to see the book: Have a New Kid by Friday: How to Change Your Child's Attitude, Behavior & Character in 5 Days by Dr. Kevin Leman. I was literally trembling waiting for my prescription...so on a whim...I grab the book as my name was called. I believe it was a combination of the two things...but going on the meds AND strictly following the books guidelines...our entire life and family turned around. After a few weeks...I actually caught a glimpse of myself laughing in my rear view mirror and it actually surprised me. It's been a year...and we have a house full of love and laughter and sillies now. We still have our moments...but they are the exception now rather than the rule. Hope this helps some... Having a strong willed girl of my own – I have lived through AND SURVIVED your pain. What did it take??? When she had just turned 6…YES I said 6! We went from age 2 thru age SIX before I was able to quell the beast! By the time she turned 6…I was lost…at my wits end…angry…depressed. SO…as I started, when she had just turned 6, I LOST IT. Spending more time screaming and crying than laughing and loving…I couldn’t take it anymore. I decided it was time to seek help. I knew what I was SUPPOSED to be doing…”take a deep breath”…”walk away”…”don’t engage”…but I just couldn’t DO IT. I finally took my issue to my GYN. I went in for an annual…and when it was over she asked me if there was anything I wanted to talk to her about. I started: “As a matter of fact…” and went on to ask: “Have you even felt like you were right there ON THE EDGE…and it wasn’t going to take much to PUSH YOU RIGHT OVER THAT EDGE?!” Being a woman and mother herself…she knew exactly what I was talking about. My fear was hormones…but she went through “a day in the life” with me…and decided to try me on a very low-dose anti-depressent/anti-anxiety med. While I was in line @ the pharmacy…I just happened to see the book: Have a New Kid by Friday: How to Change Your Child’s Attitude, Behavior & Character in 5 Days by Dr. Kevin Leman. I was literally trembling waiting for my prescription…so on a whim…I grab the book as my name was called.

I believe it was a combination of the two things…but going on the meds AND strictly following the books guidelines…our entire life and family turned around. After a few weeks…I actually caught a glimpse of myself laughing in my rear view mirror and it actually surprised me. It’s been a year…and we have a house full of love and laughter and sillies now. We still have our moments…but they are the exception now rather than the rule.

Hope this helps some…

]]> By: Mary http://mom-et-al.com/2009/08/tempest-part-2/comment-page-1/#comment-265 Mary Mon, 07 Sep 2009 05:05:55 +0000 http://mom-et-al.com/?p=101#comment-265 Maria, do you remember the time she was about 18 months old and refused to hold our hands and just wanted to run and investigate the rest of the airport? She is just a very independent, very intelligent child who wants to control her world her way which isn't too bad later in life, but is hard for you now. She is normal, you are doing everything right, and you have to just hang in there until she is able to handle it on her own. Keep up the consistency, give her choices when possible as you have done, and remember she will grow up--all too soon. Just keep showing and telling her you love her and you will be fine. Don't you love that Dominic is next in line??? lol, Mom Maria, do you remember the time she was about 18 months old and refused to hold our hands and just wanted to run and investigate the rest of the airport? She is just a very independent, very intelligent child who wants to control her world her way which isn’t too bad later in life, but is hard for you now. She is normal, you are doing everything right, and you have to just hang in there until she is able to handle it on her own. Keep up the consistency, give her choices when possible as you have done, and remember she will grow up–all too soon. Just keep showing and telling her you love her and you will be fine. Don’t you love that Dominic is next in line??? lol, Mom

]]> By: Xenia http://mom-et-al.com/2009/08/tempest-part-2/comment-page-1/#comment-242 Xenia Fri, 04 Sep 2009 00:22:21 +0000 http://mom-et-al.com/?p=101#comment-242 My daughter is almost 3 and that boat is one that we've also sailed many times. It sounds like you have more patience than I do, however, because for me to hold it together she just has to go to a time-out in another room fairly quickly. I agree that sticking to your guns is the only route because once you give in then they know that they can rule the show! Looking forward to hearing more! Following you from MBC... http://thanksmailcarrier.blogspot.com My daughter is almost 3 and that boat is one that we’ve also sailed many times. It sounds like you have more patience than I do, however, because for me to hold it together she just has to go to a time-out in another room fairly quickly. I agree that sticking to your guns is the only route because once you give in then they know that they can rule the show!

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]]> By: Shannon http://mom-et-al.com/2009/08/tempest-part-2/comment-page-1/#comment-240 Shannon Thu, 03 Sep 2009 00:24:27 +0000 http://mom-et-al.com/?p=101#comment-240 I can't say it gets easier, as Jordan is about 5 weeks older than Sofia...not much ahead of you in the way of experience, am I? But, I can say that I think that you are doing the absolute right thing by sticking to your guns...making a statement and sticking to it. I'm sure its not going to help your sanity...but you are doing the right thing. They have to realize at some point they can't win...right? right?!?!? :0) Love the new page and blog. You rock, sista! (Kudos to Tony, as well. What a great DH!) I can’t say it gets easier, as Jordan is about 5 weeks older than Sofia…not much ahead of you in the way of experience, am I? But, I can say that I think that you are doing the absolute right thing by sticking to your guns…making a statement and sticking to it. I’m sure its not going to help your sanity…but you are doing the right thing. They have to realize at some point they can’t win…right? right?!?!? :0) Love the new page and blog. You rock, sista! (Kudos to Tony, as well. What a great DH!)

]]> By: margaret http://mom-et-al.com/2009/08/tempest-part-2/comment-page-1/#comment-236 margaret Sat, 29 Aug 2009 16:50:14 +0000 http://mom-et-al.com/?p=101#comment-236 Following from MBC! http://lollipopsandpickles.blogspot.com www.mysweethomeinspirations.com Following from MBC!

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]]> By: Rae Ann http://mom-et-al.com/2009/08/tempest-part-2/comment-page-1/#comment-235 Rae Ann Sat, 29 Aug 2009 16:38:35 +0000 http://mom-et-al.com/?p=101#comment-235 Wow. It is like you wrote that post about my week. As a matter of fact, I wrote a very similar post earlier this week: <a href="http://criticalmassachieved.blogspot.com/2009/08/gah.html" title="Gah." rel="nofollow"> This leads me to believe that it must be some shade of normal. For a scarily strong-willed girl child. Or, you know, a demon-spawn changeling. Wow. It is like you wrote that post about my week. As a matter of fact, I wrote a very similar post earlier this week: This leads me to believe that it must be some shade of normal. For a scarily strong-willed girl child. Or, you know, a demon-spawn changeling.

]]> By: Maria http://mom-et-al.com/2009/08/tempest-part-2/comment-page-1/#comment-234 Maria Sat, 29 Aug 2009 01:42:32 +0000 http://mom-et-al.com/?p=101#comment-234 Ahhh...salmon skin roll!!! Ahhh…salmon skin roll!!!

]]> By: Maria http://mom-et-al.com/2009/08/tempest-part-2/comment-page-1/#comment-233 Maria Sat, 29 Aug 2009 01:40:07 +0000 http://mom-et-al.com/?p=101#comment-233 Jess, thank you for the support....and believe me, my misery loves company. Hop on board! I'll pour the drinks. XOXO Jess, thank you for the support….and believe me, my misery loves company. Hop on board! I’ll pour the drinks. XOXO

]]> By: Tony http://mom-et-al.com/2009/08/tempest-part-2/comment-page-1/#comment-232 Tony Sat, 29 Aug 2009 01:27:22 +0000 http://mom-et-al.com/?p=101#comment-232 Apparently your son has "Oonagi" Apparently your son has “Oonagi”

]]> By: Jess http://mom-et-al.com/2009/08/tempest-part-2/comment-page-1/#comment-231 Jess Sat, 29 Aug 2009 01:24:59 +0000 http://mom-et-al.com/?p=101#comment-231 Ya know, scratch that not being there yet...ok, not to that degree...but I did have to remove my not-even-one-year-old son from what was a very pleasant bath because he kept standing up...and standing up...and standing up. He would stand, I would say "sit on your bum please...or no-no, danger" and so on and sit him down. I tried to distract him with toys, splashing, you name it. But he would just SCREAM at the top of his puny little lungs and immediately attempt to stand up again...I would correct, he would SCREAM......I would correct, he would SCREAM...SIX times to be exact until I finally threw in the towel and got him out of the tub. Perhaps I let it go on a bit too long but I was almost sickly curious to see just how tenacious the little stinker actually is. I fear we could have gone on that way until one of us passed out from exhaustion. So, I am pretty sure I will see you in toddler hell in another year or so. Have a drink ready for me, would ya? Mama needs a martini! Ya know, scratch that not being there yet…ok, not to that degree…but I did have to remove my not-even-one-year-old son from what was a very pleasant bath because he kept standing up…and standing up…and standing up. He would stand, I would say “sit on your bum please…or no-no, danger” and so on and sit him down. I tried to distract him with toys, splashing, you name it. But he would just SCREAM at the top of his puny little lungs and immediately attempt to stand up again…I would correct, he would SCREAM……I would correct, he would SCREAM…SIX times to be exact until I finally threw in the towel and got him out of the tub. Perhaps I let it go on a bit too long but I was almost sickly curious to see just how tenacious the little stinker actually is. I fear we could have gone on that way until one of us passed out from exhaustion. So, I am pretty sure I will see you in toddler hell in another year or so. Have a drink ready for me, would ya? Mama needs a martini!

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